SEL tips for home
By Mohini Pandey, FIS MYP and Primary teacher, SEL-specialist
Hey families! Life gets busy, right? Between work, school, and everything in between, finding time to connect with our kids can feel like another task on the to-do list. But guess what? Supporting your child’s social-emotional learning (SEL) at home doesn’t have to be a big, complicated project. It’s all about those little moments that help build emotional intelligence, kindness, and a sense of calm—something we all need, no matter how old we are!
Here are some simple and playful SEL tips you can easily fit into your daily routine, even with busy schedules.
1. Start the Day with “Check-In” Questions
What to Do: Over breakfast or during the morning rush, ask your child one simple question: “What’s one thing you’re excited about today?” or “What’s one thing you’re nervous about?”
Why It Works: This quick chat helps kids learn to express their feelings and prepares them emotionally for the day ahead. Plus, it’s a great way for you to know what’s on their mind.
2. Daily Gratitude Game
What to Do: Every evening, take turns sharing one thing you’re grateful for. It can be something as simple as “I’m thankful for game night!” or “I loved playing with my friends today.”
Why It Works: Gratitude boosts happiness and helps kids (and parents!) focus on the positives. It’s a lovely way to end the day on a high note.
3. The 5-Minute Dance Party
What to Do: Blast your favorite song and have a mini dance party in the living room. No rules—just dance however you feel!
Why It Works: Movement is a great way to release energy and stress. It’s also a fun way to connect and laugh together.
4. Mindful Moments
What to Do: Take a minute (literally just one!) to sit together and take deep breaths. Count to four as you breathe in and out, and focus on feeling calm.
Why It Works: Mindfulness helps kids learn to calm their minds and bodies, which is a valuable skill when dealing with big emotions.
5. Family Highs and Lows
What to Do: At dinner or bedtime, share the best and most challenging parts of your day. This simple conversation starter helps kids open up.
Why It Works: It teaches kids to acknowledge all their emotions—good and bad—and shows them it’s okay to talk about both.
6. “I Notice…” Compliments
What to Do: Make a habit of saying “I notice…” compliments, like “I notice you worked really hard on that homework” or “I notice you helped your sister without being asked.”
Why It Works: This builds kids’ self-awareness and reinforces positive behavior. Plus, it feels good to be seen!
Remember, it’s not about doing SEL perfectly—it’s about connecting, sharing, and showing up for each other. As parents, you’re already doing so much. These small, simple moments can make a big difference in your child’s emotional growth, and hey, it’s a good way to check in with your own feelings too. So, take a breath, enjoy these little moments, and have some fun along the way!
Happy connecting!
